Parenting Goals with Teenage Daughters August 4, 2019 Tennis Competition Helping Others Working as a Team Dealing with teenage daughters and their ever changing moods can seem daunting. We never know “who” is going to show up for breakfast. In an article by Marika Lindholm, Ph.D, she has outline 10 parenting goals we can all try to implement with our teenage daughters. Below we have outline 5 of these that we use at Camp Marimeta. Here are some parenting goals with your teenage daughter. Lets start by trying to ignore the dreaded eye roll. We all find it frustrating but most ever girl does it. We try and remember that she is thinking for herself and judging what is being said to her. In fact it is developmentally fitting, and eventually they move past this phase. Try not to “pick up the rope” on this one. Talk to your daughter later, telling her how it made you feel when she rolled her eyes at you. Egocentrism and teens go hand in hand. In fact, they can be down right selfish. Only thinking about their needs and wants are also normal in their development. In any event, remember to talk with them about empathy, kindness, and perspective. This too shall pass. We all know girls can be blunt, annoying, and merciless. It is how we react to these tactics that can make the difference. First of all, let them know it is not ok to talk to you that way. Then, table the conversation for when you both can discuss it calmly. Also, once you have the discussion with them…let it go. They need to know we can move on after disagreements. “Facing consequences and overcoming challenges is part of becoming a resilient adult.” We have to let our daughters struggle with setbacks and realize that it is not the end of the world if they mess up. Support them and guide them with solutions, but above all don’t fight their battles for them. Finally, own your own inappropriate attitude. We all make mistakes and lose our temper and say things that we are not proud of. Apologizing shows your teen that being an adult doesn’t mean you’re perfect. It does however mean that an adult accepts their missteps and trys to make reparations. Please read the full article in Psycholgy Today to find out the other 5 tips to help reach those parenting goals with your teenage daughters.